Mind Over Matter- Learn How to be Emotionally Intelligent With Beniasha Kharas Dongre

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Guest of the week: Benaisha Kharas Dongre

“You make an impression when you have created a brand of yourself and the best way to create this brand is with your image.”

Benaisha Kharas is an Image Enhancer, Inspirational Speaker, and Fashion Style Expert.

She is passionate about helping her clients project an influential, charismatic, and stylish image in their personal and professional lives. She is the absolute expert in the art and science of personal style and image management. In fact, she is the“go-to Image Builder” for women, young adults, corporates, and fashion houses. At IMPA (Image Management Professionals Association), Benaisha is the only youngest Senior Image consultant to facilitate expert classes across India. Fashion Magnet Anita Dongre highly endorses Benaisha’s expertise and has got her entire sales staff sell fashion and luxury, ‘The Benaisha Way’.

She is India’s youngest internationally certified Image Consultant since 2012, Benaisha has inspired and trained more than 2000 people to be Style, Image, and Fashion Conscious.

She has provided personal consulting to more than 250 HNI clients to present themselves with more poise and polish. Being dyslexic, yet incredibly popular in the media; Benaisha does not let her obstacles come in the way of her dreams. At the tender age of 10 when her teachers told her to go to a special school, she chose to become her own hero and fight for her dreams. She graduated with double majors in sociology and entrepreneurship. After receiving a standing ovation for her TedxTalk, she again inspired thousands at ‘Kaggaz’, a forum for the youth and shared her vision of India’s Young Image. Education Times invited Benaisha to speak and motivate their audience on image and career. Gulf Times has appreciated her work done with Qatar Airways and Indian Women’s Association of Doha. Benaisha also made her presence felt on India’s first image management TV show ‘Image Banani Hein’ on Zoom TV.

Benaisha helps her clients on colour, style, wardrobe editing, personal shopping and dressing for those tricky events like weddings, interviews and dating. She also advises fashion houses on creating delightful customer experiences, artistically sell fashion and luxury, and effortlessly convert walk-ins into shoppers. Corporate Clients like BMW, Qatar Airways, Deloitte, Jeena & Co, and many more count on Benaisha for transforming their executives to be their Brand Ambassadors with strong communication, personal image and influence skills. She is deeply interested in working with differently-abled children to inspire them to lead meaningful lives. She has also helped children who suffer from attention deficit disorder, hyperactivity, and down syndrome to regain their confidence and enhance their self-image.

Benaisha, an avid lover of books, travel, and fashion; lives in Mumbai India.

Excerpts from the Session

You can also watch the entire session video here:

https://www.instagram.com/tv/CFZlavhHblY/?igshid=m9xwyd48nbip

But, for those who like to read or keep a note of the expert’s opinion, we bring the entire excerpt of the session so that you don’t miss out on anything. Here are the points that were covered in the live session:

What is EQ?

A lot of us have heard about Emotional intelligence but do we really know what EQ is all about?

Emotional intelligence is to be and to behave intelligently when one is emotional. Emotional intelligence is how we handle our emotions whether good, bad or ugly when we are emotional.

There are 2 aspects of emotional quotient

• Understand yourself
• Understand your goals, intentions, responses, behaviour and all that you do.
• Understand others and their feelings

To be understood, we must first be understanding. Only talking without any understanding can create strain and even complicate the decisions. So, it is important to be understanding in order to be understood by the other person.

9 Characteristics to be emotionally intelligent

• Take responsibility for your feelings 

• There are lots of times when we don’t take ownership of our feelings. One must know that we need to take responsibility for our feeling whether it’s a really small immaterialistic thing or whether it is something that adds value to your life.
• Label your feelings, rather than labelling people or situations

• Acknowledge your emotions by accepting your flaws and that way you won’t put your feelings onto somebody else.
• Distinguish between thoughts and feelings

• Thoughts are something that occurred before a certain act while the feelings occurred after a certain act.
• Use feelings to make decisions

Your feelings are a combination of both your mind and heart which then makes you emotionally intelligent individual. Ask yourself:

• How will I feel if I do this?
• How will I feel if I don’t?
• I will feel good if I achieve this goal?

When you ask yourself these questions you will get different answers- some have FOMO (fear of missing out) and some have JoMo (joy of missing out) and that’s what makes your decisions easy.

Respect other’s feelings 

• It is really important to empathise and ask people about how they feel when you are doing a particular thing. An emotionally intelligent person always respects other people feelings and not just hops on what they feel.

Feeling energised v/s feeling angry

• Use your upsetting moment to energise yourself.
• You use what others call anger to help them feel energized to take productivity action
• You are not victims of other people’s outburst
• You do not react but are proactive

Empathize

• You empathize and validate other people’s feelings
• You show empathy, understanding, and acceptance of other people’s feelings.
• Positive mirroring
• You practice getting a positive value from their negative emotions. Ask yourself how do I feel and what would help me feel better and at the same time ask others about do you feel and what would help you feel better.

Don’t preach

• They don’t advise, command, control, criticize, judge or lecture to others.
• They realise it doesn’t feel good to be on the receiving end of such behaviour, so they avoid it.

 Footnote
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