Mind Over Matter- Understand The Art of Forgiving With Beniasha Kharas Dongre

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Guest of the week: Benaisha Kharas Dongre

“You make an impression when you have created a brand of yourself and the best way to create this brand is with your image.”

Benaisha Kharas is an Image Enhancer, Inspirational Speaker, and Fashion Style Expert.

She is passionate about helping her clients project an influential, charismatic, and stylish image in their personal and professional lives. She is the absolute expert in the art and science of personal style and image management. In fact, she is the“go-to Image Builder” for women, young adults, corporates, and fashion houses. At IMPA (Image Management Professionals Association), Benaisha is the only youngest Senior Image consultant to facilitate expert classes across India. Fashion Magnet Anita Dongre highly endorses Benaisha’s expertise and has got her entire sales staff sell fashion and luxury, ‘The Benaisha Way’.

She is India’s youngest internationally certified Image Consultant since 2012, Benaisha has inspired and trained more than 2000 people to be Style, Image, and Fashion Conscious.

She has provided personal consulting to more than 250 HNI clients to present themselves with more poise and polish. Being dyslexic, yet incredibly popular in the media; Benaisha does not let her obstacles come in the way of her dreams. At the tender age of 10 when her teachers told her to go to a special school, she chose to become her own hero and fight for her dreams. She graduated with double majors in sociology and entrepreneurship. After receiving a standing ovation for her TedxTalk, she again inspired thousands at ‘Kaggaz’, a forum for the youth and shared her vision of India’s Young Image. Education Times invited Benaisha to speak and motivate their audience on image and career. Gulf Times has appreciated her work done with Qatar Airways and Indian Women’s Association of Doha. Benaisha also made her presence felt on India’s first image management TV show ‘Image Banani Hein’ on Zoom TV.

Benaisha helps her clients on colour, style, wardrobe editing, personal shopping and dressing for those tricky events like weddings, interviews and dating. She also advises fashion houses on creating delightful customer experiences, artistically sell fashion and luxury, and effortlessly convert walk-ins into shoppers. Corporate Clients like BMW, Qatar Airways, Deloitte, Jeena & Co, and many more count on Benaisha for transforming their executives to be their Brand Ambassadors with strong communication, personal image and influence skills. She is deeply interested in working with differently-abled children to inspire them to lead meaningful lives. She has also helped children who suffer from attention deficit disorder, hyperactivity, and down syndrome to regain their confidence and enhance their self-image.

Benaisha, an avid lover of books, travel, and fashion,lives in Mumbai, India.

Excerpts from the Session

You can also watch the entire session video here:

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But, for those who like to read or keep a note of the expert’s opinion, we bring the entire excerpt of the session so that you don’t miss out on anything. Here are the points that were covered in the live session:

The Art Of Forgiving

To forgive is to set a prisoner free, and to discover that the prisoner was you. 

• Refrain from judgement.

When you stop judging and simply become an observer, you will know inner peace. With that sense of inner peace, you will find yourself happier and free of the negative energy and resentment. A bonus is that you will find that others are much more attracted to you. A peaceful person attracts peaceful energy.

• Learn to let go and be like water.

Rather than attempting to dominate with your forcefulness, be like water: flow everywhere there’s an opening. Soften your hard edges by being more tolerant of contrary opinions. Interfere less, and substitute listening for directing and telling. When someone offers you their viewpoint, try responding with: “I have never considered that before- thankyou. I will give it some thought.”

• Avoid telling people what to do.

Disregard any inclination to dominate in all of your relationships. Pay attention to yourself when you are having judgemental opinions and see where self-attention takes you. From that moment on, you will be free of frustration with those who don’t behave according to your ego-dominated expectations.

• Move on to the next act.

Your past history and all of your hurts are no longer here in your physical reality. Your life is like a play with several acts. Some of the characters who enter have short roles to play, others, much larger. Some are villains and others are good guys. But all of them are necessary, otherwise they wouldn’t be in the play. Embrace them all, and move on to the next act.

• Don’t go to sleep angry.

Liberating your thoughts and feelings which are negative before you go to bed will only help you destress your body and rejuvenate overnight. It also allows your body and mind to unplug, in order for it to restart the next morning with a positive and calmer perspective.

• Switch your focus from: blaming others to understanding yourself.

By taking responsibility for how you choose to respond to anything or anyone, you are aligning yourself with the beautiful dance of life. By changing the way you choose to perceive the power that others have over you and you will see a bright new world of unlimited potential for yourself and you will know instantly how to forgive and let go of anything.

• Be kind instead of right.

Imagine if someone says something to you that you find offensive, and rather than opting for resentment, you learn to depersonalize what you have just heard and respond to kindness. You are willing to freely send the higher, faster energies of love, peace, joy, forgiveness, and kindness as your response to whatever comes your way. You do this for yourself. You would rather be kind than right.

The first to apologize is the BRAVEST. The first to forgive is the STRONGEST. The first to forget is the HAPPIEST. 

My policy of life is to say sorry and thank you most definitely to people who really matter. 

Footnote. 

If you find yourself judging, cut that flow down and remind yourself for not doing it.  Forgiveness is important because otherwise you will be holding grudges for people all your life. Hence, when you know you are at fault, apologise and forgive and forget. Follow these tips in your life for a better emotional control. 

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